Does Adult Development Really Exist? 2014

While growing up, most of the developmental changes are so obvious there is not much question about their reality.  Once grown up there is a lot of psycho-social pain associated with ways in which we have tended to be competitive and changes that seem more like signs of degeneration than progression. 

Personally I believe that adults can continue to develop and grow and not only age and degenerate. 

Whether or not adulthood is easier than childhood seems to vary from person to person.  During my childhood I foresaw that my adult life would be awash with glory and joy and success.  While my adult life so far has not just been ‘a total wash out’, it has not been as good as I had intended, hoped and also tried to make be the case.  Some of what I have liked the most so far was spontaneous stuff that came up along the way and some has been times when I managed to do at least something along the lines of what I had planned for myself. 

To clarify.  Back in my early 30s I had for a job one of those spontaneous ‘nothing to do with what I’d planned but pretty pleasant’ types of day jobs.  It was seasonal and so when it rained we called the day ‘a wash out’ and didn’t work.  That was what I meant.

Halloween 2013

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Right now, those of you who have been reading regularly know that here in Germany, although they are increasingly aware of Halloween they are not very into it.  Here in Saxony, which may or may not be at all like the rest of Germany, they are into the Harvest season.  As only 15% of Germans live in the countryside, it may be that I am writing to you from an unusual situation, where the local farmers have every reason to celebrate the seasons.

Halloween: being an American who spent most of my life living in the USA – at least at age 45 that is the truth, I learned about it at a young age.  We learned to wear costumes and knock on the doors of those living in our neighborhoods and say “Trick or treat!”  Which really means:  Give us a treat, or we’ll give you a trick.  In reality, it isn’t that nice.  A lot of the days after Halloween, there were eggs smashed against cars, pumpkins that were assaulted by people dissatisfied by the offerings, and other relatively minor harm done by ‘tricks’ dished out by those ‘Trick or Treaters’.  

I was one of the many good kids, who just politely asked for a treat and was grateful.  Where I grew up only in good years was it warm enough out for anyone to see anything of the costumes that wasn’t the head or the feet. 

I went home and had more candy in less time that throughout the entire rest of the year.  Like most kids, I also traded sorted Halloween candy.

As an adult and as a child, in especially fortunate years I either attended or even hostessed-attended an actual Halloween party. 

As a mother, my son has now outgrown Trick or Treating until he becomes a father or escort to some children.  We went out together – one or both of us in costume, for years.  I remember the year he was so grown up he went out without me or his father. 

Whereas my birthday occurs as people are getting back to normal after the Christmas-New Year’s extravaganza, my son just had his birthday as the energy of Halloween is mounting.