Isha Garg’s Post
While listening to the band above: I went ahead and checked out a few other blogs and posts today. First, I ran across Cristian Mihai…then moved on to Isha Garg. I read hers because it was filed under art and I’m both into art/ists and like all the other women and many of the men tend to be relationship oriented.
Well, hers was about the issues that we experience when we actually get to know someone and the preconceived notions we have of them get replaced with actual knowledge instead of image. Most of us know that sometimes we actively present ourselves to others, and seriously consider how exactly we do so. One of the greater challenges in the most intimate relationships is that we become known in the ways that we want to be known (the way we present ourselves) but also in ways that we passively or actively avoid exposing when intentionally presenting ourselves for the purpose of being observed. In astrology, they call this the difference between the ascendant sign or the first house (how someone seems to be) and the person’s sun sign (basic ego structure and personality) and moon sign (the modus operandi of the person’s emotional system).
I felt Isha’s post was insightful but was sorry to see it focused on a sense of disappointment when appealing images of someone fall away with real intimacy. While I am aware that does happen with people: hence the saying, “Familiarity breeds contempt,” but also the saying, “Ein Freund is jemand, der dich mag, obwohl er dich kennt.” ! The latter is what true love is all about: loving each other when we really do know each other extremely well.
People vary in their comfort with intimacy. My personal view is that the greatest love comes from, or at least with, intense intimacy but the reality is that our real enemies remain so when we know them genuinely and deeply.
Personally, I believe that the majority of people are able to get along well enough to do some stuff together as a team but really won’t relate well at a high level of intimacy….unless forced to. Sometimes that turns up in movies, in a macho form when some men in a story are forced to rely on one another and eventually become friends. In real life, this happens: amongst work colleagues, in families, and actually also often amongst the financially disadvantaged, because having less forces people to need each other more and not because such people are better or worse than people who have more money. Heck, even guys in famous bands go through weird changes when they have enough money to not have to share a hotel room, or to share their seats on the tour bus. The freedom is great; it is the same freedom from having to tolerate each other that causes some teens and young adults to flee ‘the nest’ of their parents ….but it is really nothing more than being less tolerant of one another.
Ultimately, I believe everyone has others in the world with whom s/he (he or she = they) is able to be true friends when intimate, throughout the entire spectrum of morality but I also don’t believe that anyone really likes everyone else in a biased and personal way.
Spiritually, I do believe we are capable of having compassion for everyone, and can practice spiritual love for all: I learned this from religion: It was Jesus and His Heavenly Father – aka “the god of the Jews / called Allah by the Moslems”. I’m not speaking for anyone else about whether or not that’s where or how they learned it; that’s where I believe I got it from.
Generally, I think happy experiences and an optimistic temperament and healthy diet all lend themselves towards a given individual to liking other people.
Anyway, that’s my response to Isha Garg’s post on the Art of Knowing other People Post. I notice that it doesn’t make a great plug or Segway for my published works, but if you search on the wider web by my name you can find some stuff I wrote that’s for sale. By the end of the post, as well as the band shown above, I’d also heard Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds, Godsmack and U2. “rocker”, but I also love classical – as in symphonic orchestral, music….