Well, while young it seemed that finding a relationship was easy enough but getting to maintain a marriage for many years or even decades was made impossible for me personally. For whatever reasons, when push came to shove: my husband chose to make me be single again. Did I have any responsibility in the matter? Yes, I did and I know that.
Well, having tried to enable myself and my son to grow up with his parents either still together or both remarried and both couples still involved with him…that didn’t work either.
Part of it has to do with realities: personal freedom, women’s liberation and ideas and behaviors that go along with that, the sexual revolution and how this forces us to recalibrate how much of any marriage is or is not based on sexual exclusivity and how much its money and kids or just healthy intimacy and family ties.